Tales of an INFJ and her ISTJ

So right now I am enrolled in a Principles of Management class. When thinking of management, a person doesn't ordinarily (or at least I don't...) think of personality tests.

Well this teacher does apparently.

I have taken 2 personality tests so far this semester. The first determined how I learn, and the second describes you as a person and what you are probably going to be like through marriage, with your children, who you are compatible with, etc. It's pretty much the know all of personality tests.

The test determined I am an INFJ

I- Introvertive

N- Intuitive

F- Feeling

J- Judging

I started reading the book that went along with it, ("Please Understand Me II") and I was surprised at how interesting it was to me. But based on the outcome of the MBTI test, I am the type of person who LOVES learning why people are the way they are ( so I guess I wasn't too surprised about that)

I found myself laughing as I read through the pages of the book, reading more about myself. It was most definitely ME! (It's nice knowing that you are not a total freak for doing certain things that seem normal to you)

The book was also weird since it talks about how that type of person is in marriage, intimacy, and as a parent. In that section, I almost felt like I was reading a book that I wasn't supposed to be reading. The future is the future because you do not know it's going to happen yet, so finding that I should expect certain things kind of ruined the fun a little. However, being the INFJ that I am, looking toward the future is a part of who I am. I talk/worry/obsess about what I'm going to do after college, paying off loans, where I'm going to live when I graduate, getting married, children... and countless other questions that no one who is 19 needs to worry about.

Boyfriend has a little trouble dealing with this aspect of me.

His frequent phrase is "I don't know, I just know I don't have to worry about that right now, and when it happens I'll figure it out" (or something to that effect)

Boyfriend is an ISTJ - which means he is more of a serious, conservative, hard working type, who likes to solve problems, and thinks in the present, not the future. So now you can kind of understand why he gets aggrevated with me....

The book also has a section titled "Mating" where they take differnt types of personalities and tell you how they would react in a marriage type setting. I would be lying if I said I didn't freak out a little when the book said: "renewed efforts to solidify and stabilize their (it says marriage, but I am going to use relationship) relationship only taken as a sign of superficiality. "

I really did freak out....(just ask Anastasia and Katy) I questioned our entire relationship practically just because of this dumb book...

After I calmed down, and after talking to my ISTJ, he determined that "this book was full of lies"(straight from the horses mouth) Boyfriend is sceptical to believe things sometimes, which is a good quality to have in a partner when you are easily gullable. (he takes advantage of this more times than I can count) So with much reassuring from Boyfriend, I realized this book didn't determined our furture, we did. This book couldn't control our future, we did. If our relationship comes to the point where we are thinking of pursuing a greater calling, it came to that point because it was supposed to. I think the Big Man was testing me a little in this situation....

I'll finish this post with a quote from one of my favorite movies, " A League of Thier Own"

"It's supposed to be hard. If it wasn't hard, then every one would do it. The hard is what makes it great." - Jimmy Dugan